Christian online dating tips Part 2

Step 3

Now we know the very basic keys.I want to share some practical things about meeting people online. There are so many things to consider.
1.Affordability
2.How much time will you invest in the search
3.Safety
4.Other peoples input.
5.How to go about the process and whats acceptable as a child of God?

All the above will be what every Christian seeker will need to have good understanding of.

Affordability:

Affordability, is basically how much money are you willing to put in to getting a open profile?As a single mom; I had a limited budget. I found a site that offered a great service for $9.00 a month and it was not a limited plan I could speak to others and they could speak to me. Many sites offer a free profile but you can not connect with anyone until you pay money or they do.For $9.00 a month I had all the access I wanted.
The time spent on the search:
In reality, you should take it slow and easy, your not in a race.When you connect with someone your only talking about it effecting your "ENTIRE LIFE" so take your time, and make sure they are worthy of such an honor!Do not feel you have a week or a month to get this done in, have you not heard Rome was not built in a day!All good things are worth the time, to build!

Safety :

This is the most powerful key I wish to express.Be safe no matter what!There are even in Godly places evil doers at work!You can not give out personal information until you have built a solid friendship 1st THAT IS IMPEARITIVE!And for your 1st few meetings you should never meet in private!After spending plenty of time chatting progress to web cam chats, but keep it clean!Many people have a negative idea about the web cams, but they can be a great tool in getting acquainted with a new person, especially if they do not live close to you!I spent months chatting with my future groom before we ever met!And do not ever send pictures of your children to any one you wouldn't trust their lives with!Even if your in them!Only after you know them like a best friend can you open up such a treasure to them!And I suggest for a 1st date make it meet a Church event, separate cars, and have a friend with you, if you get any bad feelings trust your unction with in to guide you, back off right then and agree to part friends, or at least in your next web chat!(If they do not know where you live you will be in no danger) When things are far enough along, you can meet them for one on one dates but do so at a public place, restaurant, movies, ect....Keep it public, for a while.And I believe hugs are fine, but no more till later! I will explain why later on, it has to do with your inner spirit and how it effects you.Not because I don't believe intimacy is off limits for all Christians.But all things in God's timing!You may exchange all kind of pictures via Internet once your to this level.But I also wanted to share get feedback from Church friends after they meet him, take some people with a grain of salt, you never know what slant everyone may be coming from?Many people are fearful of any stranger at all,especially if they learn you met on line, there is quite a social stigma with it!Even in this day and age!But those in tune with your heart of hearts will not lead you wrong!Rightly discern what they have to say!

Input of others!

Ok, let it be known, not everyone has your best interests at heart, if it were up to certain people they would keep you single FOREVER!That's just the way it is, and others may be jealous of your social activity, when they have not been able to cultivate their own.Then others will judge you sharply if learning your method of meeting is online(somethings are better off on the down low!)Other times you may need the wisdom of others to know, if your stepping out of the will of God!But in the end its your heart the Holy Spirit speaks to, so stay hooked up, and listen closely, get alone if your not hearing God, and quiet your mind, let Him lead you with His peace, if not by a Word!

The process:

I suggest building up & slowly establish a friendship 1st, in getting to know(your online pal) . What makes them happy, what gets them mad, and even sad?Listen to what they have to say closely, its a precursor to whats inside them, do they speak ill of many women?Are they talking about God's will much? A seed always produces like fruit!Do not fall for the rescue me syndrome, or yourself be too needy, a quality person can sense this right off!And make clear what your standards are up front always!Do not be afraid to speak your heart on such matters!Just be your self, and leave out putting on a show!As you build up to the 1st meeting process, keep in mind anything short of marriage always offers a way out...your not bound to that person of things begin to not line up to your biggest expectations?Although I must say not 100% of our wants will always be fulfilled, people are human and will always fall short, major on the majors & minor on the minors!Enjoy your courtship, laugh a lot and really get to know that person, from their personality out!You need to know if they are your polar opposite or a Gift from God, and as you spend time together, do the little things they do drive you nuts?Or does your heart ache every second your apart?That's the beginning of the actual relationship...and that's where your love story starts!